BETWEEN THE FRIENDS- An Interaction

             Hello Brothers and Sisters from all walks of life, my name is Arun Sharma I am married with Reena and a father of 3 sons. I live in New Delhi- India. I am 44 years old. I now work with safety and security of under trials. I had worked with United Nations in Bosnia Herzegovina (BiH) I am in a job that needs 24x7x365 time. It is fun with daily new challenges, improves reflexes and I love that. I am a commerce graduate from the university of Delhi and post graduate in Human Rights from Pondicherry (now called Puducherry) University-India, MBA in HCS from Sikkim Manipal University- India. I am happy the way life takes shape because it is all decided n destined. A happy traveller and feels that when you live your life with complete happiness than you don't have to be serious in all matters.....  I am also managing a blog with the name “arunaksarun.blogspot.com “connected through ' https://www.facebook.com/aksarunsharma “I generally post my emotions and views through that.... hope we would have a good session of discussion in this week.... .................

Lesya Buchinskaya : Dear Arun, thank u very much for being a new guest of the week. I see that your educational background is sound. Why do you educate yourself?

Arun Sharma Thanks for your kind comments LESYA; I have a feeling that education empowers us in every field and open the mind as well. A good education is foundation of good human being... whatever I have learnt just because I never hesitate in learning.... I understand if you don't read you are missing NOTHING  and if you will read you will KNOW a LITTLE... :)

Lesya Buchinskaya ‎:) U r welcome! What is your cherished dream?

Arun Sharma I love my dreams and they are my asset. They help me to realize the best of life is still to come... I dream a lot and I cherish a lot too... so finding one cherish dream is really tough however I feel that friends should always remain in life and if they depart than we should keep them at happy place in heart so that we can visit them frequently because we generally visit happy places rather than sorry/sad states.. Nice memories refresh us... :)

Lesya Buchinskaya You have told that you  are a father of 3 sons... can u tell about them?

Arun Sharma Certainly LESYA, PRIYNK, YUGAANK and ORIAN are my sons. PRIYNK - 20 yrs., is doing B.Tech in IT. He is in his final year. YUGAANK- 19 yrs., is in IInd  yr. of B.Tech (IT) ORIAN - 9 yrs., is in IV class. I am happy with them and they love a lot to me and my wife REENA. You can see their photo on my face book a/c as well.... :)

Asad Hasan Do you think you are happy with your life?

Arun Sharma Yes Dear ASAD, I am very happy with my life and feel that the god has given me the best of everything. When I think about my best days of life, I have innumerable no’s of days coming again and again.... Thank you god for this... :)

Asad Hasan Do you like experimenting with new things in life?

Arun Sharma certainly ASAD, Routine is lethal and finding new and then experimenting it is best gift of our creator... whatever we have learnt because of our this nature. It is well said one day you will laugh over your fears and overcoming fears, the way is experimenting and have experience from it..... :)

Asad Hasan Do you believe in the concept of life after death?

Arun Sharma YES ! I do believe in concept of life after death. I have an understanding that one should educate oneself as life is never ending and one should not indulge in committing sin as one has to die within hours....:) I have very high regard for people with special skill i.e. artist, painter, actors, sport persons, writers, sculptors and I feel it took lives to learn and master that particular art.... :)

Hemmy Salvatore hello dear guest ! I just have no idea why did you wear like an American mafia in 1975 :D:DD:D:D:D:????

Arun Sharma Thanks  Hemmy  for wonderful comment... sometimes it is good to look as DON CARLIONE.....

Hemmy Salvatore trust me bro I love that too ♥

Arun Sharma I know buddy, thanks a lot....:)

Asad Hasan What is the wildest thing you have ever done?

Arun Sharma (Laugh out loud..)  Let me think... :) OK..., I was In NCC- National Cadet Corps and we all went for camping in jungle area. We stayed there for 5 days so once one of our friends , he used to make fun of all by pulling legs on small issues and when we go for impressing the girls cadets , he reached from nowhere and used to make fun of us in front of them. So once we decided to make fun of him. He used to sleep in red boxer type underwear in camp with us. so one of the night we filled dry soil- lot of soil in his under wear so next morning when he woke up and stood on his feet, some of the soil came out and we made announcement that due to some technical problem he is no more man and throughout the NCC season he always requested us not to tell this to girls otherwise they would also be making fun of him w/o realising that all the girls cadets were already aware about it....:)))

Asad Hasan ah I can only imagine how your friend must have pleaded you all.... hahahaha

Asad Hasan Tell us about the most embarrassing experience of your life too?

Arun Sharma OK ... the most EMBARRASSING moment was that while I was in Delhi University, I was attending language classes at Faculty of Arts we have a good numbers of friends and used to sit near canteen for enjoying... Once a girl of our group had her birthday. She came to university and we had party there. after the party while departure on friend's bike suddenly said Arun I did not get my birthday kiss so I said no problem, here it is, as I made lip shape to kiss her on cheek, my friend who was driving the bike moved the bike and rode her and I was all in air making a sound with happy note.... All the friends started laughing and I was all confused... I and she laughed over the situation after it. bur it was most embarrassing moment I had in the open view of whole campus...LOLZ...:)

Julee Harmful have you ever made too stupid things? What was it?

Arun Sharma OK.. JULEE, I have done lots of stupid things in the past .... Reena my wife feels that I do them now as well... They are many but once I remember that I was going to attend my official meeting as I was getting late and there was a traffic light signal near to the office where the meeting was scheduled. Due to traffic I told the driver to bring the vehicle after green signal and I got down and crossed the road. There was small rainy water drain adjacent to footpath which was looking dry, I tried to cross but landed in the drain in hurriedly and it was all wet soil/mud mixed up of coal ash as a small street vendor used to sit near that. I was in mud up to thigh. Very difficult I came out, used his water for removing mud and reached with wet pants in meeting. and the vehicle was already reached before me as well.... so foolishness landed me in mud....

Julee Harmful Do you have bad habits, which? How do you manage it?

Arun Sharma Bad habits... I am not sure about it as I am not a regular smoker/ drinker/ but I drink about 10/12 cups of tea. Now I have reduced and it had come about 5/6 cups..... I was a heavy drinker in 1995-1999 but when I was selected for UN Mission, I left that and started drinking beer but when beer started increasing my weight, I switched to wines and vodka and after some time I using them on interval so now I am occasionally drinker.......:)

Julee Harmful  what annoys you in public?

Arun Sharma Annoys me... loud using of foul bad mouth language.... Horn honking, continue hurting words and manipulation that what I feel at this moment...:)

Asad Hasan If you came across a genie who offered to make three of your wishes come true, what would those wishes be?

Arun Sharma ‎3 wishes- genie have limited power to give that would be in material shapes so 1. I will wish for fastest computer with unlimited fastest Internet connection so that I could stay among friends.... 2. I will wish for having a wonderful party blast with my all friend at one place so I can meet them all. 3. I will like to go with my family for a vacation where we can sit and relax together and enjoy the company with good food and good ambiance.... because it is always worthwhile.... :)

Julee Harmful  If you will have a million dollars what would you like to do?

Arun Sharma Having Million Dollars: It is good money and can secure the future of any individual. If I have this at one time: I will save some part of it for establishing a charitable trust for helping students and old age homes. Some part I will invest in bank for safe future through it like pension. Some part I will give to my sons for higher study if they wish to do so. Some part I will spend in buying a house in Bosnia as I love that place and I have sweet memories connected with it. Some part I will spend in touring some good places in Europe and nearby places along with my son Orian and my wife Reena as my elder sons had already visited Europe and seen them. Rest of the money we will spend in buying clothes, perfumes, books, and Arte facts from different places..... :)

Julee Harmful What do you think about gifts for different holidays?? how do you choose is usually? Have you ever had the most unusual gift?

Arun Sharma I love holidays and try to go for outings with my family and close friend's family. I chose holidays and vacation as per our convenience and holiday period. While going for holidays I prefer to have a comfortable journey and hotel should be well located and well connected. The place shall not be overcrowded and services should be good enough. I love to stay in heritage hotels as generally rooms are big and one relish the royal experience. I try to know the local culture and believe in mixing with local residents. It is always a good experience and especially when you can speak a few words of their language....:)

Julee Harmful Have you ever had the most unusual gift? What was it?

Arun Sharma Most unusual gift: Thankfully I have received many gifts and for them I once again thankful to all my well-wishers and friends. One of the unusual gifts I remember while I was in Bosnia and stayed in Vogosca- Skendra Kulenovica. My landlord and his wife were old couple but I could feel love between them was always flourished. Once before going for morning shift my kitchen geyser was not working and there was leakage from it so I requested my landlord Gospodin Mohammed to repair it. I told him in a routine manner and that time two of my colleagues were present. By 4 PM when I came back and co-incidentally the same colleagues were accompanying me for a cup of tea at my accommodation. As I checked and surprised to discover that he had replaced the geyser with new one. It was wonderful gift as it was cold out there. I thanked him for that gesture. .... Recently a day before yesterday I and my wife Reena have been gifted with a bed sheet which was painted with flowers and petals by the person who has gifted me. I came to know that it took 2 months to paint it so. I am very happy by her gesture and thanked her. ... I remembered that my mother used to knit my sweaters for me. it was her love for me and even Reena did it for me... These are few gifts which generally are not gifted and people use to get gifts from market directly. ...I remember that one of my friend's mothers gifted me her old antique radio when she came to know about my likeness for such items. ... My colleagues have brought me different types of Match Boxes as I love to collect them.... the story is so long and endless as well. Thank you god for your sweet gestures through my precious friends.... :)

Julee Harmful Do you like surprises, drawing?

Arun Sharma I love surprises and they make the atmosphere vibrant and alive... now days when I go out for morning walk my son ORIAN surprises me with bath and getting ready.

Asad Hasan What do you want to change about yourself?

Arun Sharma I am sorry dear ASAD, I have kept you waiting for some time... Regarding the change in myself... I would like to say that I will not change anything.... from past. No more comforts/luxury
· I will express respect and regards to people who had given me happiness...
· ...I will thank god for giving me everything...
· I will not cause pain to all..
· I will live simple and normal life ..
· I will be happy n satisfied.... whatever I have
· I will work hard, study hard, help others, and donate more.
I will be more opened, flexible, relax, ...
I will make people happy n happy ...... this I have expressed in my blog post as well.....:)

Asad Hasan What is your favourite childhood memory?

Arun Sharma Favourite Child hood Memory- I had several memories because that is the happening time I used to be very rash and commanding as my initial yrs. I was totally docile but later on one of my friend influence me and thereafter no back... The most pleasing one was I love rains and used to stand in rains. I used to make paper boat from newspaper and used to run with our respective boats till they drowned in the last. We had a nearby tin shed from where the rain water used to flow like make shift fall. We generally used to stand under it and enjoyed the shower. .... I remember about playing monopoly in summer over the roof tops in tin sheds in scorching heat of 40 degree cels. w/o feeling the summer heat...... I was very good at a local game 'GILLI - DANDA'. ASAD must be aware about it..... I remember playing with marbles and we call them 'Kanche' and Cricket that runs in blood. One of my childhood memory I have mentioned in blog post with the name of "FEAR AND SURPRISE" It were wonderful experiences and I love that moments of life.... :)

Asad Hasan Have you ever cheated on someone before?

Arun Sharma  I am a normal human being who lives in this world... I might have lived like any one as I am not saint but I remember that 2000 onwards I had an understanding of life and that has reformed me as I always wanted to be.....The process was started in 1999 when I lived with me in Bosnia, that time I had recognised few facts of life and learnt the new chapters of life....:)

Asad Hasan How old was you when you had your first crush?

Arun Sharma First crush: OK, The first time I felt good like crush when I was 4 yrs. old, I still remember the face of girl with whom I started going school. I still remember her smile when I joked over some matter with her. She was sweet. Unfortunately I did not remember her name otherwise I certainly have tried to look for her in FB.....:)

Asad Hasan How old were you when you went on your first date? How was the experience? 

Arun Sharma First date: Lolz.. I remember my first date. I was in college/school and 18 yrs. old. While I was doing PARA SAILING in NCC, I met her there. It was attraction at first eye contact. She was dark beauty having curly short hairs. She sang really well and member of YMCA choir group. I along with my friend, his girlfriend and mine went to a place in NEW DELHI called APPU GHAR- an amusement park. We have limited money and I and my friend decided to pool the expenses. As usual girls were excused from pool in. We took the ride tickets and enjoyed several rides and some of rides were such in manner that could become to stay close to each other. Than we had few snacks and fizzy drinks/coffee. The whole day was fun and frolic. We had fun for good reasons. After the date I went to drop her in an AUTO Vehicle nearer to her house in south Delhi. Dating was a taboo and generally done w/o telling the parents. The money was limited but can bring happiness to faces.

Asad Hasan Do you believe that there is only one love for everyone?

Arun Sharma One love: My dear friend ASAD, I feel that search for love is unending till you discover your love.. It may take several yrs. to recognise that. We all love and let it lost as well due to our false ego or other not cited reasons.so there is love for every one whether it is one or it repeats again is a different issue but I am so sure that we all find love sooner or later so search for love shall never be stopped till you discover it.... :)

Julee Harmful  when you promise something, do you restrain your promise in future? if you cannot do it, what are actions you will take?

Arun Sharma PROMISEAND ACTIONS: Yes I believe in keeping the words and do the needful to come up with such promise. I generally do not make such promises which I cannot do and it is just a surprise that in last 10 yrs. or more no one has asked me to make any promise as generally I fulfil what I consent for.... so no one has raised or asked me to promise first for getting anything done... surprise for me as well!!!

Julee Harmful  What is your attitude to people who do not speak pleasant words, "I love you" "my sunshine" "You are the most expensive in my life," and others? and why? 

Arun Sharma The use of polished words is quite common in day -today world. Many times I have seen people using such words for you and by direct reflex one can make that this is not true just flattering. Those can never become your good friends and your true friends will say whatever they would feel for you. you should remember they will tell you truth and if it is a bitter one they would tell you in private but will never use polished words in front of you but when you are not around they would stand for you if someone uses improper words. But sometimes some friends express their feeling by using positive words, you can feel inside that these are feelings-true feelings.... gut feeling... :)

Julee Harmful  Are you envious?

Arun Sharma No, not now I feel so, as I believe that each of us has his own way to walk and sooner or later everyone will get what is good for him/her... no one is spared and no one will be left...:)

Julee Harmful what do you do when you're sad?

Arun Sharma SAD and ME !! : I am a human being so I easily get happy as well as sad. I do not remain sad for longer time but when I am sad, I eat something and go to sleep for 2/3 hrs. After waking up I start a fresh with consuming some fruits/ salads with some wine. I play some board game Ludo, Monopoly, Chess, cricket with my son Orian and forget about sadness.

Julee Harmful  how many friends do you have? What do you think about FB's friends? how do you perceive it, serious or not?

Arun Sharma I have a good number of circle having many inmates but if you count friends than it would on fingers but I am happy that I have good friends whom I can wake up in middle of night and vice-verse. FB has given me good numbers of friends as well can share views, ideas and emotions. Once I was telling my son Orian that why we have friends? he replied that so we can share good things with them and learn good from them.. I was impressed and feel the same ...:) The GOD gives us friends so whatever he wants to give us at least he should have a medium for giving so...:)

Julee Harmful  if you will know when you will die, if you would like to live last day, what will you do?

Arun Sharma MY LAST DAY ON EARTH: I will try to live my day completely and full of colours. I will not cause pain from my acts to other. I will not be going to take advantages in getting excused my mistakes I will speak with god and will listen his advices carefully. I will act over them as I always try to take liberties by either ignoring or not heeding them or on other pretext of practical life. I will forget and forgive the people who might have hurt me before. I will celebrate each moment gifted to me with inner silence and outer joy or vice-verse. I would like to keep feeling of revenge at a far distance as I feel that keeping it nearer will decrease my chances of understanding the relations of soul. I will express my gratitude and would seek their forgiveness when I have hurt them the most, knowingly or unknowingly. I have no much time for arguments and heated words. I will go to my elders and seek their blessing for onwards journey. I will speak with children. I will spend a quality time with my spouse I will read something good that will be like a soul food for me. I will meet my teachers and mentors as because of them I have achieved this success. I will go and say thanks to all my friends as they have accepted me as a friend despite my many short coming. I will go and do some charity and try to help people. I will visit some good places incl. of my school, to keep myself awake. I will drive carefully and will not honk horn. I am successful in doing all the above than I can go back and remember them and sleep sound....:)

Julee Harmful  Where do you live? in an apartment or house? What things are in your house? What are your favourite place in your house? What is the thing the thing the most favourite and why? Can you make repairs? how much furniture are in your house? Do you like a lot of furniture? What style do you like the interior? :))

Arun Sharma  I live in a duplex apartment. It is 4 bedrooms flat with open kitchen so Reena can speak with me from there as well and I can help in her work. My eldest sons live in hostel. I have a normal city house with necessary amenities use for day to day work. We miss nothing in house as it is fulfilling our requirements. My favourite place in house in living room from where I can speak with my wife and can see each other. I generally do not go on next floor except for sleeping. I can do small repairs but our apartment society charges monthly maintenance charges and provides repair man for all work i.e. electricity, plumber, security guard, intercom, cleaning and collection of garbage etc. My favourite thing in house is my BED for sleeping as it is quite large like king's bed (8'X7') and my chair which is also a huge one and in throne shape. It is a comfortable chair for watching TV or using Lap Top or reading a book. In my leisure hour I sit and drink my favourite drinks while discussing matter with my sons and wife. Yes I like variety in furniture but keep as per requirement and space. Generally house is decorated with variety of furniture but the impression of ANTIQUE could be felt in furniture. ...:)

Julee Harmful Do you like to marry  a foreigner? 

Arun Sharma  I am Married and happy with my wife Reena. A foreigner is such a person who is not aware about the culture, language, traditions of other community. In this regard I would say that I have married a foreigner because when I got married with Reena she was not aware about my community. It was an inter religion marriage and she was from different state as well-Punjab where she speaks different language and follow the different custom and traditions. We both chose the best from both communities and have invested our best yrs. together..... so marrying a foreigner is a good decision for me and I support that....:)

Julee Harmful Why you are always in sunglasses? 

Arun Sharma SUN GLASSES AND ME- ARE WE SOUL MATE !!!- True most of the time I love to wear glasses when I go out. I love them they are just like my extension. You know I have dedicated a Face page to it with the name " I Feel Like a Movie Star when driving car with loud music & dark eye shades" (https://www.facebook.com/pages/I-Feel-Like-a-Movie-Star-when-driving-car-with-loud-music-dark-eye-shades/254534111266339) ... so that what I can say... I love them...:)

Xiao Mei  Arun, the other day, I saw that picture of your family, it were 2 boys and 2 girls, I thought those are your children, but you said, you only have 3 sons, so who are those children?

Arun Sharma  Dear Xiao, I have checked the photo... that is a collage featuring my sons as well as my wife at 2 places and I think that is why some confusion might have occurred as my youngest son ORIAN was 2 yrs. old and wearing a pony tail because of his long hairs....:)

Xiao Mei Arun, can you tell us, your marriage is arranged or not arranged by your family and your wife family? your wife is your high school sweetheart? she works or she is housewife now?

Arun Sharma Well Xiao, Mine is love marriage and I think that is the best decision of my life. I was that time 21 +yrs. old when I got married. Reena , my wife was 19+. And I feel that time I was not prepared for marriage as well as I wanted to settle down first but as her parents asked us to get marriage then otherwise you both would not allow for so. We both mutually decided that and got married. The initial days of marriage were really charming. I was already selected for my job and was waiting to go for training. After 6 months of marriage, I went for trg. It was scheduled in Delhi- my city. so I could come in week end and on holidays. I have been blessed with good understanding mother and sister. They really took care of me as well as my wife like their own daughter. Now I feel that the decision of getting married at early stage of life came as blessing in disguise as my sons are 20+ and I am still 44 yrs. I can enjoy their company as well. Reena runs a chocolate mfg. unit however in her initial yrs. of marriage she remained as home maker and looked after us. I am happy and obliged to my wife for accepting me as raw person...:)

Xiao Mei Hi, Arun, I heard in India, there's 4 class people, the highest rule the country, the second do business, I am not sure the third, then the poor one, and the people only marry to same class people, is that true? or things changed now days ?

Arun Sharma Hi Xiao, The invisible status / class division existed in all societies, I had been to various places and found it everywhere. It is like young love the company of young ones and students enjoy among students.. so if it was in India than it is no news. In India we have mixed economy that is mixture of Capital system as well as Socialism economy. The purpose of that was that people could make their property and poor could survive with the help of state. however after 1990 the policies have changed and private sector plays a vital role in economy. That has increased openness to norms of society. People make their own circle of like-minded people and enjoy with them. there is no hard and fast rule from state or public especially in cities it is difficult to point out the status of people. Regarding marriages generally marriages were used to settle among the people who follow same customs and traditions but now the situation is changing. People have more acceptances to other's customs and traditions. The education is playing an important role in the development of one's view and status...:)

Xiao Mei Arun, when you took that pic, walking down the hall way in a hotel ? I would say, 10 years ago?

Arun Sharma well this pic was taken in 2007-2008, I along with my wife Reena went to attend a family function in Ludhiana City of Punjab State-India. That time the pic was taken by her from mobile phone.....:) it is a good pic and Julee has selected it for this review...:)

Xiao Mei yes, it is, you looked in a very good body shape ! hope you still maintain that way...

Arun Sharma I always try to do so but sometimes I gain because of lack of time for physical activity/exercises or irregular timing of my commitments..... it is a continue fight with self....:)

Margaret Gudkov Arun do you like animals ?do you have any at home ?

Arun Sharma Thanks Margaret,  Yes , I do like animals and generally remained friendly with them. They are best teachers of nature, one can learn lot from them. I had kept dogs twice but fortunately because of young age of my children I could not kept them for long. Seizer- my first pet a dog whose pic I have posted on my time line as well was the dearest one. He was an intelligent dog with brain. He loved vegetables a lot and playful, unfortunately He died at young age. the second was Neo a black Labrador, he remained with us for little time as it was borrowed one. Now days like every season for last 3 yrs., the cats use to stay at our roof top and give birth to kittens being a safe place. This kitten play at our roof and when they grow them departure for their onward journey. Besides this in summer we keep a bowl of water at our balcony so that birds may drink water in this heated summer. Besides this we have a custom that first bread which would be baked will be in the name of cow- a holy animal so Reena -my wife keeps the same for cow to eat. :)

Margaret Gudkov What kind of books you like ?your favourite author?

Arun Sharma BOOKS & AUTHOR: Yes I do like books and whenever I get time I read them. I love reading pulp fictions, motivational writings, short stories, comics as well as life experiences, travelling stories, thriller, horror, detective’s books, epic stories. I like many writers and Mr PAULO COELHO, GURU TAGORE, Great KAHLIL GIBRAN, Respected OSHO, PREM CHAND, are among my favourite authors. I love pulp fictions by an Indian writer- Mr Surendera Mohan PATHAK. I like PHANTOM, MANDRAKE, FLASH GORDEN, TARZAN, SPIDER MAN, and SUPER MAN COMICS. I like Indian comic characters- CHACHA CHAUDHARY, BILLOO, MOTU-PATLOO, POPAT- CHOPAT, JOJO AND DADDY, RAJAN-IQBAL....:)

Margaret Gudkov  What about music ?could you tell us favourites?

Arun Sharma MUSIC: Music is part of my soul, I love various shades of music depend upon time and moods. As I said before about sun glasses , the same apply to music as well. I hear all genre and music of those language as well which I could not speak nor understand. It is the best communication among the societies. I love Rock, Ballad, Pop, Soft, Rap, etc. 80's music is best for me. I love listening BRYAN ADAMS, BACK STREET BOYS, SANTANA, DIRE STRAIT, MC HAMMER,CHAKA KHAN,BON JOVI, GEORGE MICHAEL( WHAM), MJ, EAGLES, CELINE DION,DURAN-DURAN, EUROPE, FOREIGNER, GUNS N' ROSES, PHIL COLLINS, CUTTING CREW,MADONNA,RICHARD MARX, MODERN TALKING, SCORPIONS, AKON. Besides this I like COLONIA & ALCA VUICA - BALKANS are among my favourite. I like GERMAN and ARABIC songs as they have a good melodious music. I like KISHORE KUMAR, MOHD. RAFI, ATIF, ASHA BHOSALE, BURMANS- father/son, JAGJEET SINGH, MOHIT CHAUHAN, SHAAN are singers among Indian. I love many tracks sing by individual singers i.e. RUMOURS- Timex Social Club, TO SIR WITH LOVE, HOW DO I LIVE- Lenn, I BELIEVE I CAN FLY- Richard Kelly, LOSING MY RELIGION,SAY IT RIGHT- Nelly Furtado, WIND OF CHANGE, LADY IN RED, IT MUST HAVE BEEN LOVE, MAMA, WALK LIKE AN EGYPTIAN, THERE'S NO STOPPING US, TAKE MY BREATH AWAY, THE TIME OF MY LIFE, SHE'S LIKE THE WIND, TOTAL ECLIPSE OF MY HEART, 19th, ROCK ME AMEDUS, BOULEVARD'S BROKEN DREAM-Green Day and many more are among my favourite. I recommend to my friends to listen the above mentioned songs through U TUBE. Further I may like to suggest them to try music in other languages. It may be a good heavenly experience....:)

Margaret Gudkov and what about movies too? what you like ?

Arun Sharma   I like watching movies and it is my fav. pastime. It refreshes me as well. It further helps me understand human being. I have a high regard for artists of all field. They are master of their art. Making a movie is like a purpose of one's life. It is like 'DHYAN'. I love all types of movie i.e. THRILLER, COMEDY, EPIC, SCIENCE FICTIONS, SOCIAL DRAMA, ACTIVITY BASED. The few movies which are among my fav are I KNOW WHAT YOU DID LAST SUMMER, SPECIES, ALIEN, TERMINATOR, JURASSIC PARK, KING KONG, CARRY ON SERIES, BODY ROCK, SCREW BALL, BREAK DANCE, FAST FORWARD, BACK TO THE FUTURE series, MUMMY, GLADIATOR, SAVIOUR, ROCKY, TRUE LIES, DIRTY DANCING, ARMAGEDDON, MIB, FACE-OFF, ITALIAN JOB, BEHIND ENEMY LINES, SIXTH SENSE, DAY AFTER TOMORROW, TO SIR WITH LOVE, KUNG FU PANDA, RONIN, I AM LEGEND, ENEMY OF STATE, LION KING, KARATE KID, RESIDENT EVIL series, further I like various Indian movies and few of them are PADOSAN, A WEDNESDAY, ROCK STAR, BEES SAAL BAD-old, DEV-D, BHOOT, GOL MAAL- old & new, MY NAME IS KHAN, JOHNY GADDAR, ZINDAGI NA MILEGI DOBARA, WAQT, DO BIGHA ZAMEEN, JAGTE RAHO, KABHI ALVIDA NA KAHNA ETC. The Indian movies are available with sub-titles in many languages and one can easily find them on line....;)

Margaret Gudkov Do you like to go on nature trips ?

Arun Sharma  I remember initially days of my life I liked to venture in cities and crowded place with full of noise and running. Rly Stations, Bus Terminals, Aerodromes, heavy rush Markets were quite fav to me. I liked to stay in jam packed hotels near to crowded places but with the passage of time now I feel comfortable in silence. Yes I love nature trips. I like to stay far from city life somewhere with quietness and with me. I hang out at such places with peace of mind. I like morning walks in parks, river trails, sea shore, mountains and deserts. they give me myself. Being family man, I respect the choices of my sons as well so sometimes we visit such places where they feel good. It is good as well...:)

Margaret Gudkov can you cook for yourself ?

 Arun Sharma COOKING IS  MY EXTENSION.  Before going to Bosnia for UN Mission, I used to try different breakfast food items in kitchen with the help of my wife-Reena, I remember making odd shapes breads. But as I remained alone in my mission days, I started doing cooking there. I became expert in all Indian dishes. Indian vegetable rice, Beans, Cottage cheese items, Vegetables, Parantha, Nan, Chapati/Roti, Pakoras, Burgers, Pizza, Spring rolls, Noodles, Dosa, Sambar, Idli, Vadas, Rabri, Kheer, Halva, etc. , I can cook easily. I am thankfull to my friends in Bosnia as at the initial stage of cooking it were cooked by an unskilled person but their interest in having them had increased my level of cooking. ..:)

Margaret Gudkov what dishes you like ?

Arun Sharma  I love Rice with beans ( RAZMA-CHAWAL, CHHOLE-CHAWAL) , PAKORAS (ONION, POTATO, SPINACH, BREAD SLICE) with MINT Chatani(sauce), NAN-DAAL, KULCHA, SAMOSA (Indian patty), PURI/BHATURA-CHHOLE (fried bread with chick peas) DAHI BHALLA CHAAT, TEA, GULAB JAMUN WITH ICE CREAM/RABRI, MILK WITH A DASH OF TURMERIC, SPAGETTI IN TOMATO base, COTTAGE PIZZA, CAKES, DARK CHOCOLATES, CHOWMEIN/NOODLES, DRY MANCHURIAN, SPRING ROLLS, HOME MADE BREAD SALTY CAKE, DOSA (Rice based) , PAO BHAJI ( bread buns with mix vegetable), BHINDI ( lady finger in Indian spices), MAXICAN BRITO. I had Bosnian breads SOMAN, CHEESE PITTA and I have found them tasty and tempting...:)

Lesya Buchinskaya  what things will you never forgive even if a person is dear to you?

Arun Sharma I feel that forgiveness is the quality of braves. One needs real courage to forgive a person who has caused him difficult pain in life. The revenge makes one separated from his purpose of life. Forgiveness is related with soul and its journey. One should possess this to take lead in his own journey. The soul suffers when we do not trust the word ‘forgiveness’ . We always try to find best for ourselves and our beloved ones. If given chance to meet with god the first thing the human will ask for compassion and forgiveness than the other things which will come to mind. So it is always better to know priorities of life which revolves around “FORGIVENESS”. I know it is hard to practice and sometimes despite knowing it even we forget to do so but nothing is impossible. How can I ask for forgiveness if I am not ready to do so..

Lesya Buchinskaya  do u believe in miracles?

Arun Sharma Yes, I do believe in miracles and its effects. They play a positive role in our life and motivate us to know this world in positive note. I myself have witnessed and felt the result. I had a wonderful experience with it. The logic may be many for such but what our heart feels that is important.......:)

Lesya Buchinskaya  agree and the man himself is a great miracle :)

Lesya Buchinskaya what would u do if u were the most powerful man?

Arun Sharma Dear LESYA, I feel POWER BRINGS RESPONSIBILITIES and more power brings more responsibilities therefore I have to act responsibly to prove that I can handle such power. Before doing anything I should have a well-built team of experts to advice and act for the achievement of some goal because w/o any goal we cannot proceed in specific direction. We need to have small day to day goals setting and its achievement which further helps us to achieve the main set target. The larger interest of society cannot and must not be ignored. A good power is always acceptable to all and can stay for  longer and would be stable as well. A feel good factor must prevail among the people and direct access to system head is respite for all. The critics must be listened and remedy actions should be followed on need based measures. The integrity and ethical approach is foundation to system so I will work while keeping the above said design keeping in mind.... :)

Margaret Gudkov  What you think about fashion do you follow do you shop with your wife and choose for her as well?

Arun Sharma  I do not follow the fashion trends as there is a limited stuff for male. We can have PANTS/TROUSERS, SHIRTS/T-SHIRTS,COATS/JACKETS, SHORTS/TRACKS, JEANS, I use all these stuff for wearing. Furthermore in religious programs sometimes I wear male DHOTI or KURTA- PAJAMAS. The clothes have to be comfortable. I wear SAFARI SUITS as well. For formal wear, I like to wear SUITS (2/3 piece) in winters and plain light colour shirt with dark shade pants in summer. I use different types/colours of shoes i.e. leather, canvas, sports, floaters, timberland type according to my dress sense. Some of the shoes I have got stitched on my request as per my choice. I love wearing sweaters in winters and take warm shawl when stay at my home. Jackets are my fav and I have plenty of them. These are well maintained as well. During the day I use sunglasses as sun is quite bright here. Some of the accessories w/o which I don't go out are Sun cream in summer and Moisturizer in winters, Sun glasses, Hand-Ker-chief, Pen, wrist watch and wallet, some ID proof and my mobile with hand free kit( I don't use blue tooth). Now days I have the pleasure to share my clothes with my son-Priynk as we share the size. I always shop with my wife and before buying we generally discuss about the wear then choose the right stuff. Generally Reena -my wife chooses her clothes with discussing with me. We use to discuss the design and material. She is aware about the women's choice about the trend and material.....:)

Margaret Gudkov  If given chance to go back in time would you change anything back there?

Arun Sharma  This is a good question and this I had asked myself as well. After thinking about it I have realised that I will not change anything from past. No more comforts/luxury and whatever I have learn just because of my life's experience, I will express respect & regards to people who had given me happiness and always take care of me. I will thank god for giving me everything. I will not cause pain to anyone. I will live simple and normal life. I will enjoy n satisfied with whatever I have, I will work hard, study hard, help others, and donate more. I will be more opened, flexible, relax, I will try to make people happy...:)

Margaret Gudkov What about sport?

Arun Sharma SPORTS: I had played many games during my school and college days. Cricket is my passion and I played well during my school days. While in NCC, I did PARA SAILING and GLIDING. I had played BAD MINTON in locals. I had played TENNIS as well. Unfortunately I did not play afterwards now whenever I get chance I play. Now I play electronic mind boggling games.

Margaret Gudkov Do you like to do anything creative ?

Arun Sharma Yes, I like to write on various aspects of life and its experiences. I am maintaining the same through my blog as mentioned above in my introduction. I do little bit of drawing with colour pencils. I do lot of experiment with photo software on various photos. Furthermore besides doing the above I want to learn GUITAR. It is my passion and I feel somewhere related with it unfortunately I have not learnt yet despite my try in BOSNIA. I have good friends who play good guitar. Michael Rider and Dalip, they are on FB as well. I want to continue my education further till the last breath. I want to do some paint whenever get time. I want to design my house/clothes with my wife again and again. If I get time I want to learn GOLF so that I can play it in my post retirement days...:)

Julee Harmful Arun how do you understand "betrayal" what is attitude to this?? betrayal between a husband and wife, adultery between a man and a woman, betrayal between children and parents, betrayal between friends, What do you think about  treason& betrayal, are the same for you or not? what about your perception of the words?? Is there a difference for you???

Arun Sharma  Julee, hard hitting & Good question ........  A relation is pure source of energy. It develops one ‘s emotional and spiritual strength. It is like sacred river of holy water, blesses the persons involved. Betrayal is a lesson of life learnt from the closer ones. As closer the person , so high the learning. One can feel the pain of this lesson throughout the life. One cannot ignore this as we do not live in Utopian society. Betrayal diminishes the charm of relationship. The degree of betrayal depends on the intensity of relation. It is breach of trust between the persons. It is obstacle in friendship and relationship. It is one of the dish of buffet choose by us . It helps in opening one’s mind. It awakes us. It is like an electricity current passes as shock treatment in smooth life. It gets support from other negative emotions of life. Once broken never be intact again. I have seen people walking through this door and the intensity of their emotions is such high that I can feel the dryness of their eyes after the flowing of their tears. Initial stage the learner remains in denial mode and slowly when he started understanding the experience then the feeling of Pain, repentance followed by anger and hate which is sometimes so high that one may start doing the same with self. Then the stage of revenge comes. One starts living in manipulation and conspiracy w/o realising that is affecting oneself rather than anyone else. I feel that involving in such activities it is better to start a fresh with or w/o the person involve. One can forgive or forget the existence of such person, is the solution to deal with this emotion. Only then, the learning through this emotion is possible otherwise it would snatch the purpose of life from us.

TREASON  is the wish of changing the system or particular person. It is a voice against the evils design created to run the system. It may be for better or worst depending upon the decision of people involved in doing so. Hearing the direct voices may reduce the chance of happening this and respite for them who are feeling betrayed or cheated. There are many examples of this when people have stood for this whether it was war between north and south. It involves good numbers of persons from both sides. It is like a dim flame which increases with the spreading of dissatisfaction. A person against whom the treason has occurred or going to occur can handle it w/o any harm if he / she will able to take right decisions on time. It is a continue process and day to day decision making is required. A good administrative team can work for restoring the trust of people. Critics may be given the right place and suitable need based, people oriented welfare decision can control and prevent this situation.

Julee Harmful Thanks Arun, your answers are GREAT :) I liked your comment about BETRAYAL :)) thanks a lot :) , that there is a real friend to you? What is the quality (character traits), he should do have? which are friends do you have?

Arun Sharma FRIEND  is a live example of your reflection. A friend is a life experience of one’s life. He/ She is a mentor, a Guru, A follower, a support and best companion. He is the critic when you are alone. He knows your weaknesses and rectify them when you are with him but supports among other w/o questioning them. He is your biggest fan and follower but teaches you when you are in his company. He advises you w/o letting other know this. He is like a wall to cover your back. He not only covers you as well as stands for you when you are lonely and broken. He does not believe in taking your fruits rather sharing his fruits with you. Finding friend is never a difficult thing if one is true to his own feelings. One can make many friends if there is less contradiction in one’s personality. I feel that friends never hurt and if someone pretends to be in your friends’ list and hurts then he is not a friend. A person who respects the others is as good as a good friend. I have learnt a lot from my friends and some of best moments of my life are written by none other than my friends. I always feel that many of good things blessed by god through my friends. I would have missed those best fruits if not accompanied by my friends. Thank you friends for helping me to have them( blessings of god). Thank you GOD for their presence in my life.

Qirana Wae  do you have brother or sister in your real life ?

Arun Sharma Yes QIRANA, I have a brother and a sister. both are elder to me and I am youngest child to my parents. I had an opportunity to have the love and admiration of my sister and brother. Both of them are settled with their respective families in Delhi and live nearby. I have 3 nephews and one niece. The nephews are settled. Two of them are engineers in multinational companies. The other nephew works as sales manager in another multinational company. My niece is pursuing her studies and donning her bachelor's degree in sciences....:)

Qirana Wae first I have notice to your pic with your wife, it’s so nice couple, I think just my parents & grandparents are good couple, but I also saw & think that u have too ! :)

Arun Sharma You are true QIRANA, I live in complete peace with my wife Reena, my adorable. I am lucky to have her in my walk of life. She has made my life beautiful and worth living. She has explained me the meaning of love and togetherness. I am thankful to her for accepting me... Thank you Reena...:)

Qirana Wae have u ever visited Indonesia ?? if you and your family come to my country I will introduce u to my grandparents  :)

Arun Sharma Certainly QIRANA, I will love to visit your lovely country as I have not visited yet but have noticed that the people are friendly. I met some of them in UN posting as well and found them true to their heart. When I visit, I will certainly like to meet you, your family, parents and grandparents in person. That would be great honour and blessing for me and my family. Please convey my regards and respect to them. ...:)

Qirana Wae how about "positive thinking" ? 

Arun Sharma Dear Qirana, I feel POSITIVE THINKING is generated through living a life as LIVE NORMAL. Our soul transforms through life. Every soul lives a different meaningful existence to meet his/her counter parts and to merge in super soul i.e. God. Whatever I have today is the best and I am going to see this beautiful world by the help of it. I love to live this moment fully and I don’t hold this celebration for any other day. I am living my life in present as I am not time traveller and I don’t wish to be. If I become than my life will never be same and full of more mistakes and less gratitude’s. The living should be like a life of a child. He lives completely and happily. As we grow up we forget about enjoying the small things of life and make our search for better, best, excellent and outstanding. We can’t predict or forecast because life is not a planned affair.. it is not a drama set on your stage of life. Life is an act of natural emotions come spontaneously in mind. if god be given chance, he would love to live like us just because of uncertainty in various situations. Dreams are goal of our life. It is sign of awaken mind, love them , they are here to take us to another level of salvation. We should celebrate and enjoy this beautiful moment. Life is full of giving’s and lot of taking. Living life in simple form and in today makes us prefect for future journey. Life is a book and nothing extra-ordinary is required to be done to read this. whatever he has offered to us is related with us and I wish a normal life shall be full of adventures including of nightmares, it is worth, pay for it happily, and enjoy the nectar of life... That is the POSITIVE THINKING and its outcome. :)

Julee Harmful what would you like to change in this group?

Arun Sharma A group of friends is most ideal atmosphere for everyone. We all love this group w/o imposing any condition. The acceptance of all is a gift of love in this group. I do not find any shortcoming in this group and it is progressing with a steady speed. It has all positive atmospheres and that is why I have introduced my school friends to this group. What we may do that if we would like to introduce new aspects, we can distribute the responsibilities among us for providing new features i.e. motivational quotes, amazing pics, unbelievable facts, major head lines, fashion, latest movies reviews etc. Each of us can bring good stories and entertainment in group. That will enhance our knowledge as well as can work as forum in this group otherwise even w/o it the group has everything as an ideal home....:)

Asad Hasan What would you do differently if you knew nobody would judge you?

Arun Sharma Dear ASAD,  I feel that I may try for doing something differently while cooking as I have done it before, some of them are really awesome and some are awful but that has not deterred me from doing. The good ones are shared with every one and worst are known to me.

Asad Hasan ‎-What is the most rewarding experience you have had and what made it so?

Arun Sharma  Dear ASAD, The most rewarding experience of my life is my marriage with my wife. This has converted me in mature person overnight. I still remember that 2 days before my marriage I was in a different mood along with my friends moving with fast pace in the car having beers with loud music in the background and suddenly enter into a new zone having responsibility and have someone to share my dreams and expectations. We both have progressed with each other and made our life better in each other company. She has gifted me the most beloved gift -family & my sons-my extension. I have learnt a lot in life with them. The love , the care, the adoration, the sacrifice, happiness and acceptance have been taught by them. Due to their presence I am able to devote and dedicate to my job and official commitments. Whatever success and appreciation I have recd. because of them..... :)

Asad Hasan Who or what inspires you and why?

Arun Sharma  The life is full of good expectations and great hope. Everything in this world explains a new meaning to us. There is a light everywhere and all are walking experiences of good learning. When I see someone helps someone w/o any expectation, when a child walks while holding the hand of his father/mother, when I see in metro/ bus/ train that someone vacates his seat for someone who needs more than him, when someone before eating, gives his share to needy one, when someone packs extra food for his friends, when someone stops to give direction for destination to strangers, when a poor displaced person returns your precious belonging, when someone who can but does not steal your belongings, when someone like Mahatma Gandhi fought for our existence, when someone like Mother Teresa came to foreign land to help the poor, when someone like Martin Luther came forward for unknown, when someone like Jesus sacrificed his life for his enemy' sake, when someone like Mrs. Indira Gandhi gave his blood for his country, when an unknown soldier/ cop patrols for our safety in dangerous alley of unseen threats, when my mother used to keep he best fruit for me are few examples which are alive inside me, motivate and inspire me to believe in humanity and mankind. ...:)

Margaret Gudkov  I want to say hearty thank you to Arun for his wonderful answers and his patience..

Xiao Mei  I can't write good English......

Arun Sharma Dear Xiao, English is not our mother tongue, whatever we have learnt, it is just because of making communication, If you avoid that you would always have this hesitation, and remember friends never make serious joke of friend, it would be a good learning experience for you as well as for us. Do not feel that you know a little English but what matters is great thought and experience.... Remember you are surrounded by your own friends... smile and come forward. 

Mi Nia Real  hello... Arun Sharma....sorry i was late...:(

Arun Sharma Hi MI, It is good to see you buddy, we miss you too...:)

Mi Nia Real Arun I just want to ask...Do you have complete compilation of your posts in Blog Site?....thanks... ♥

Arun Sharma Yes Mi, you can find all the posts month wise mentioned on right side tab. The most 10 popular are mentioned below as well. :)

Arun Sharma OK friends, Thanks a lot for sharing a platform together on this group. I am thankful  to admins of this group for allowing me to express my views with freedom and confidence. I am thankful to my friends for asking various questions that have helped me to understand and learn many things. It would assist me to understand new phases of life. It is a good learning experience for me. I am especially thankful to Julee for helping me in creating my initial intro. I wish that this activity may please be continued and progressed in future and motivate more friends to participate. It is one of finest experience for me and would remain in my good memories. I hope and believe that I have not hurt any of my friends during this discussion, if it might have happened, I request for unconditional pardon from them. Thanks again....

PS :The above are excerpts of my interview while I was "Guest of the Week " from 12.06.2012-19.06.2012 in FB group- 'enrich your speech'. Hope you have enjoyed the session.

 The above picture prepared by Julee in honour of the guest of week... I like it very much. It is good!!

 This is another gift given by my friends. It is a beautiful gesture. I just love this too.